Men are horn dogs or at least most of them are, but some men just sometimes lose interest. You ask yourself, is something wrong with you? Have you become sexually unattractive? Did I put too much make-up or too less?
Well, first of all, there’s nothing wrong with you. Lack of sexual interest is a problem but according to experts, most sexual problems aren't sexual at all.
We sometimes have the idea that for men, the sexual experience is detached from what is going on inside. In reality, a man's emotions can have a huge impact on his sexual desire. If he feels emotionally distant from his woman, and especially if he feels like a failure in his career or business, it can lead to a lack of confidence and therefore a lack of interest in sex. For a man, sexual performance is very much tied to ego, so if he is not feeling good about himself it will definitely show up in his approach to sexual intimacy. Also, if a man is overworked or under a lot of stress, whether inside or outside the home, sexual interest may start to take a back seat.
If a man is feeling constantly criticized or dominated, it creates big damage to his self-worth, and that filters down to his sexual interest. So find out what issues may be coming between you and take positive steps to resolve them.
There are a whole lot of issues that may need to be sorted through to get to the root of the problem. You need to have an honest talk with your man, but do it in love. Rather than attacking, grilling or blaming him, share your struggles with him. Tell him that you are wondering if there is something wrong with you that is causing him not to want you. Be vulnerable and let him see what you are feeling - whether that is your insecurity, feeling unfeminine or even ugly. Even if you suspect that it is more a problem on his end rather than a problem with you, approach it sensitively.
Support him throughout the process as he works through his fears and insecurity. Remind him of your love and your desire to grow in your intimacy - emotionally, physically and spiritually. And even though you might not be able to fully relate to his perspective, work hard to genuinely understand where he is coming from.
Well, first of all, there’s nothing wrong with you. Lack of sexual interest is a problem but according to experts, most sexual problems aren't sexual at all.
We sometimes have the idea that for men, the sexual experience is detached from what is going on inside. In reality, a man's emotions can have a huge impact on his sexual desire. If he feels emotionally distant from his woman, and especially if he feels like a failure in his career or business, it can lead to a lack of confidence and therefore a lack of interest in sex. For a man, sexual performance is very much tied to ego, so if he is not feeling good about himself it will definitely show up in his approach to sexual intimacy. Also, if a man is overworked or under a lot of stress, whether inside or outside the home, sexual interest may start to take a back seat.
If a man is feeling constantly criticized or dominated, it creates big damage to his self-worth, and that filters down to his sexual interest. So find out what issues may be coming between you and take positive steps to resolve them.
There are a whole lot of issues that may need to be sorted through to get to the root of the problem. You need to have an honest talk with your man, but do it in love. Rather than attacking, grilling or blaming him, share your struggles with him. Tell him that you are wondering if there is something wrong with you that is causing him not to want you. Be vulnerable and let him see what you are feeling - whether that is your insecurity, feeling unfeminine or even ugly. Even if you suspect that it is more a problem on his end rather than a problem with you, approach it sensitively.
Support him throughout the process as he works through his fears and insecurity. Remind him of your love and your desire to grow in your intimacy - emotionally, physically and spiritually. And even though you might not be able to fully relate to his perspective, work hard to genuinely understand where he is coming from.
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